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Dear Auntie Jane -
 I I have a friend who always wants to come to my house. She never invites me back to her place.  I enjoy having her but I would enjoy if she reciprocated with an invitation for lunch or dinner once in awhile. Should I say something to her about this problem? 

Mavis

Dear  Mavis - 

  You could if you want the relationship to be a problem. Leave your invitation for a time, if she asked about coming over, just say you are busy right now. If you enjoy her company suggest you meet for a lunch at a restaurant the next time.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
  I am  a sixteen year old girl who wants to quit school after I graduate. My parents want me to go to college but I have no idea what I would take.  They have told me if I go for one year to see what my interests will turn out to be they will send me to Europe for the summer after my first year. My  boyfriend thinks it is bribery . I just want to get a job and move in with him. My boyfriend agrees with me.

Melanie

Dear Melanie - 

   First what kind of job will you get against all the people who spent four years of studying for a degree?  You will be lucky to get a job at minimum wages. Standing on your feet all day cooking hamburgers? You have an opportunity, College is a place to meet and enjoy as well as learning. Who knows if you will even have the same boyfriend in four years.  What better bribery could they use to get you motivated for a better life? Go for it.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 
 
 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I wonder if I am right at asking my mother-in-law to stay out of my personal life. She constantly is telling me how to raise our children, always comes over uninvited and usually  finds the house in a mess. I have four children under the age of eight. Just keeping up with laundry some day's  is a challenge.  If I have a choice of playing with my kids rather than pick up toys I choose to play and enjoy my kids. Am I wrong? How should I approach this with her?

Ma

Dear  Ma - 

   Sounds like you are a great Mom. Kids grow quickly enjoy everyday with them. Your mother-in-law needs some guide lines. Tell her that you would like her to phone before dropping in and you will tell her when it is convenient for a visit.  She should not interfere in your personal life. Your husband should support you when dealing with his mother.

 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My husband spends more time with his buddies than with me. I complain to him constantly but he just ignores me . What can I do to get him to stay home with me? We have been married for a year, he never takes me out anywhere. I found a condom in his wallet and I am on birth control pills. Help!

MC..

Dear  MC - 

   If he is treating you like this after one year, then look ahead to the future, before you  decide to have his children. Sounds like he wants to be ready if the occasion arises with other women when out with his buddies. I would not walk away I would run and find someone who wants to spend time with you.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My ulcers are starting to bother me already and Christmas is still  over two months away. I am the one wwho everyone in the family expects to do the Christmas dinner. I am tired of everyone coming and sitting down never asking if they can help or even bring a dish or a dessert with them. They believe a bottle of wine is enough. The family is at twenty plus three babies and I am exhausted before dinner is over. Any suggestion as I am ready to just go away over the holidays.

M.S

Dear M.S - 

   Tell them what you have told me and say it is time for others to take turns for the Christmas dinner. One person should not have to continue to have all the work. If they do not offer, book a trip and relax, and don't feel guilty. You certainly have done your share.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am fuming. I had a dinner party on the week-end  for ten people. I enjoy planning a menu that all will enjoy. I select good wines to go along with each course I serve. One couple who are in our group both work at good jobs and  have  good incomes. They always bring the cheapest wine or their home made hooch. No one ever wants to drink what they bring. I usually pour it down the drain. My problem they always want to try every one else's  choice wines. My husband says just ignore this, I just can't and it spoils my evening. Should I tell them quietly to bring some descent bottles next time?

 Mavis

 

Dear  Mavis - 

   You could but probably it will not help. There are so many good wines available at reasonable prices. Some people are wine snobs, maybe you fit into that category with some of you're friends. But anyone that serves homemade wine or brings it to a dinner party would never have a second invitation from me. Then there are people that are just cheap and want to taste everything you  have in your liquor cabinet. If it was me I would drop them from my list of guests.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a fourteen year old girl. My boyfriend of three months wants me to have sex with him. He said if I love him I should show him that I do by giving him sex. I know if I asked my Mom she would say no.  My girlfriend is having sex with her boyfriend and all the girls talk about her and call her a slut. She is a nice girl and I told her her reputation will follow her when we go back to school. Should I take a chance and have sex asking my boyfriend not to tell any one?

M.C

Dear MC  - 

   All boys brag about having sex, your boyfriend included. You know already what your Mom would say and I totally agree with her. If he loves you like he says he does he would not ask for sex to prove your love. I am not saying you both are not capable of love at you're age but is it infatuation or the real thing? You both have many years ahead to find this out. Just be teenagers, do not complicate your life at such an early age by having sex.    

Auntie Jane

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   You gave a friend of mine help with a family problem. I cannot ask for her advice so I thought you may help me. I am a widow in my middle sixties and miss the sex life that my husband and I had. I went on a dating site and all I got was old men with no sex drive. Finally I met a younger man in my complex and we have been having dinners together. We take turns cooking for each other and he has asked me to go on a holiday together. We will share a room and I was wondering if  you think I should accept as he is seventeen years younger than myself. I know sex would happen as he has made it clear that he enjoys our time together. He has hinted that he feels we should move to the next level of our relationship. I know I would like to. I do not know how my family or friends would react. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Mrs V

 

Dear - Mrs V.

    Just because you are in your sixties sex has no age limit. We are all in the need of love no matter what age. I would say go for it and not to worry what anyone says, this is your life and no one has a right to judge  you. Go with an open mind and enjoy every day as if its your last. You have many years ahead to enjoy a loving sex relationship. Use it or lose it!

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I love my Mom very much, but she embarrasses me in front of my friends. She always wants to stay and talk when my friends come over. I have asked her not to but she doesn't listen. She dresses in short shorts and low cut blouses. I asked her to cover up as she is too old to dress like this. My friends laugh about her.  She constantly flirts with my boyfriend, he doesn't want to come to my place. How can I get her to stop.

Stacy

Dear  Stacy - 

   Sit her down and have a honest talk with her. Tell her exactly how you and you're friends feel. Say you are going to stop having people over as they feel uncomfortable when she is there all the time. It is nice that she welcomes your friends into the home. But she needs to disappear after she has said hello Sounds like she needs to find some friends her own age to hang out with. Show her this e-mail.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am twelve years old, my Mom and Dad just got divorced. Now my Mom has told me I am not my Dad's real daughter.  Since the divorce she is on a mission to tell me awful things about  who I thought was my father. He has told me I will always be his little girl and he loves me very much. I have to lye when I go see him, as she has forbid me to see him. I asked her who my biological Dad is and where he lives, she said he lives somewhere in California with his own family, and is not interested in me or her.  I cannot stop crying and all my Mom says is to grow up. I feel so alone and don't know what to do. My Mom won't discuss any of this with me.

Jessica

Dear  Jessica - 

   Sounds to me you are the mature one in the family. Tell your Mom you intend to keep seeing you're Dad and keep the communications going with him. If you have any relatives that you feel close to like an aunt or grandparents ask them to intervene with your Mom. She sounds like she is going through a bitter stage and hopefully she will snap out of this quickly.  Maybe later on you will meet your biological Dad, just be happy you have someone like the Dad who watched you grow into a sensible young lady.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  I thought I would be the last person to need advice. My husband and I entered into a sexual dalliance with another couple. Both of us have been married for over ten years. I guess we were all bored with our sex lives, and were looking to put some zing and stimulation into what had become routine. Now we women have found we are more attractive to each other than our spouses. Should will spill the beans to our others or just keep it a secret. No children on either side so it is not as if  we are breaking up families. Our husbands enjoy watching us together never thinking that we have fallen in love.

C@D

Dear   C@D - 

    Well I must say you two have certainly put some zing into the equation. You both have to ask yourselves if this love is for real or a diversion from a boring sex life with the husbands. I think both couples need some time apart, then see where the path takes you all. You girls may have had your inner feeling emerge and you are lesbians. If so take the course that makes you happy.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I need help!  My kids are driving me crazy, they constantly fight with each other. I am sure one of them will really hurt the other. I am a single mother so have no one to turn to for help. I have tried to ground both of them to no avail. Just makes them nastier to each other. I have taken away screen time but they hound me until I give in to them. Any suggestions Auntie Jane?

Karen

Dear Karen - 

   You answered the question yourself. You give into them. DON'T. 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a widow age sixty,  a man age seventy has been asking me to marry him. He has three grown children , who don't want anything to do with me. I think they worry about me being after his money, I have plenty of my own. He has told me not to tell them about myself having a larger bank account than him. I had them all over for dinner, but none have had me to their homes. Should I abide by his wishes?  We enjoy travelling together and they always ask who is paying. Is this any of their business? 

Lady friend

Dear  LF - 

   NO, it is none of their concern who pays for what. If they do not want their Dad to enjoy his life with you , they must  think more about his money than him, let them steam about it.  Their loss not yours. Enjoy your time together married or not.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   Another year has arrived, and my husband has been away for over two years fighting for all our freedom. He will be home in less than a month. I met a man and fell in love with him over a year ago and don't know what to do when my husband comes home? Should I be honest and tell him?  We married a week before he was deployed. I have been with my lover for longer than with my husband. I just do not know what to do.

Marta

Dear  Marta - 

   Well you have a month to decide, if you want to give you're marriage a go. You must have been in love to get married in the first place. I would sit down with your husband and see if the two of you still have something to work on if not then cut the strings, so he can move on with his life. He has already given up two years.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  I have five teenaged grandkids. When I ask what they would like for Christmas they say money. I feel that is such a cold gift. Am I wrong with my thinking? I love to go into stores and shop for them all and enjoy deciding what would be good for each one.   

Grandmother B

Dear G.B  - 

   Why not buy a small gift for each one and then put cash into their cards. Then everyone is happy. 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   Another Christmas and going into debt. My husband and I are so tired of having to buy gifts for all our families, most do not appreciate them. All the nieces and nephews have every toy that one can imagine. They are spoiled and it is so hard to find something suitable within our price range. I counted up the kids and we have twenty kids and then the parents on top of that. Any help would be appreciated.

D@M

Dear  D@M  - 

  When a family is that big, why not  buy one gift for each family. Tell them all that is what you are doing and ask them to do the same. Let them each buy their spoiled kids there own gifts. Then pick a family less fortunate in your community and add them to your list.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
II am fourteen and in love with a guy in my class. He has never spoken to me yet, as he just came from another school. He has smiled at me a couple of times. Should I start talking to him and see if he is interested in me? I am very shy.

Cathy

Dear Cathy - 

  Love is a very strong word, maybe interested is a better phrase to use. I am not saying it will not turn into love at a later date. If he is new to the school then you should start a conversation with him, asking him if he likes the new school, where he is from and does he need any help getting to know the kids? Then let him know that you are there to help. If he is interested he will let you know. Most boys at that age are shy too, 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I live in a small complex. My neighbor has two children and I can hear their voices through the walls. She is a single Mom with a steady boyfriend that visits often. I hear both children sobbing at night. She hits them  hard as I can hear the slapping  and yelling. I knocked on her door and asked what was going on and was told it was none of my business . The young boy arrived at my door with bruises on his face and arms. I phoned the police, they arrived and took the kids  away. Now the boyfriend  has started to harass me daily. Telling me if I go to court as a witness I will be sorry.  What should I do? 

Elsie

Dear Elsie - 

   Contact the police right away. Let the police know what has been said to you. Those kids need protection and you seem to be the one they chose  to help. The mother needs to understand that she will lose her kids if she continues with her ways. Don't let the boyfriend intimate you , you have the police on your side.  You may save those kids lives.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My mother died last week and I cannot get over feeling guilty. I am saying I was not a very good daughter and caused her many stressful nights. She always stood behind me showing her love, even when I was picked up for prostitution. How can I get over this feeling of shame.

Latisha

Dear  Latisha - 

   Most  mothers love their children unconditionally, and that is how it should be. Guilt will get you nowhere in life. One day at a time build the life that you will feel proud of, she will still be watching over you. A mothers love is the best love that exists.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  My parents just told my sister and I that they were getting a divorce. They usually had a fight every week-end about something and the day was spoiled.  My younger sister is heart broken and wants them to stay together. I said it would be better if they separated as they are not happy. How can I get my sister to understand this?

Julie   

 

Dear Julie  - 

   Time will tell. When she sees her parents happy then she will begin to understand that they are better off apart. Some people stay together for the kids and suffer and are not happy. Not a good idea. Give your sister support and lots of time with you until she  realizes its for the best. Let both parents know that they are loved and you understand.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I just found out that I am pregnant. My boyfriend said we could get married, we are both seventeen  and still in school. Should I keep it my parents want me to have an abortion. Would you keep the baby if this was you?

Penny

Dear  Penny - 

  Well Penny it is not me, its you and it has to be your decision. You are both very young to start out married with a baby on the way. Plus you are still in school. How would you support a baby on minimum wages as that is all you both would make with out an education.  Another option would be to have the baby and put it up for adoption to a family who cannot have children. The downside you would probably wonder the rest of your life where your baby is.  Eighty percent of  marriages now  fail , can you see being a single Mom raising a child on your own. Finish school practice safe sex and get on with your life.  I would have to side with your parents. But as I said it has to be your choice. Good luck.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My husband and I have been arguing about whether I should go on a trip with my girlfriend for a week. She won a trip for two and wants to take me. My husband says that all we will do is get into trouble and does not want me to go. He said he will go along with what you say.   

Lee

Dear Lee  - 

   Tell your husband I say to go. You can get into trouble at home if you are so incline.  Enjoy.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am in need of some advice. My girlfriend told me she is having an affair with my husband and she wants me to move and leave my husband, so they can be together. She said he does not want to hurt me but he loves her.  Should I walk away and let them be together?  I have lost all respect for my husband and my feelings are raw at this time.

Betty

Dear  Betty - 

   Why would you move? If they want to be together let them find a place to live. If he wants this women, let him pack his bags and leave. Sounds like you need a new friend and husband. I would stay where you are.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
 I am thirteen years old, and starting a new school in a few weeks. Through the summer I have met a girl down the street from me that will be going to the same school. Her parents allow her to wear makeup, my Mom says that I am too young and will not let me wear any eye makeup.  How can I get her to change her mind?

Steffi 

 

Dear Steffi  - 

   Have you tried putting on a small amount of eye shadow, with a light eyeliner and a light lipstick to show if it applied properly it looks fine. Most girls at your age put far too much on and it makes them  look far to old. Maybe if Mom  sees that you do not overdue the process she will relent. At thirteen applied lightly I think you should be allowed. Just don't be a follower, be a leader.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am  a sixteen year old male. I have never had a girlfriend. I am not really interested in them. I would rather hang with guys.  My Dad asked me the other day if I was gay, and it really hurt my feelings. So I just walked away from him. Now I am wondering if he thinks that I am. Should I have answer him?

Max

Dear  Max - 

   Maybe your Dad was trying to open a conversation with you as a teenager. Really doesn't matter one way or another. If he asked he must have been ready for your answer one way or the other. Some guys take longer to mix with girls, doesn't mean that they are gay. Others know from an early age that they are. Either way just do what you enjoy, teenage years go by quickly. 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My grandma left me all her possessions and money in her will. She had three other grandkids and they did not get anything.  I spent many hours with her when she was very sick and ran errands and took her to doctor appointment. We both loved each other very much. She told me what her will said the day she passed away and wanted me to go to University with the money . Now my relatives want me to share with them.  Do you think I should give them something?

Bethany

Dear  Bethany - 

   I think your Grandma wanted you to have her things and her money, so you could get an education and remember her and the good times you both had together.  If she wanted it any other way she would have said so in her will. You have no obligation to share any of her things with anyone.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My boyfriend was picked up and charged with the murder of a drug dealer along with two others. He wants me to stand by him and testify in court that I was with him the night this happened.  No one saw him at the scene. I am scared if I don't I will lose him. 

BTW

Dear BTW  - 

   Losing him could be the best thing that could happen to you.  If I was you I would run not walk away from this person. All he will cause you is trouble and if you lie in court, you  could join him in  jail.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   Why does Christmas bring out the best and worst in people? Some of our relatives and friends really enjoy the holidays and others  want to be miserable and be mean and try to spoil the time together. You probably can't answer this but I feel better just getting it off my chest.  Merry Christmas.

One who loves the holidays

Dear OWLTH - 

     Some people you can never please, stick with the ones who enjoy the holidays and delete the spoilers. You obviously emanate and enjoy the holidays so never let anyone change that in you. Ho Ho Ho ! 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have had a boyfriend for two years he is forty myself thirty-five, I caught him in a lie , him not knowing that I  knew he made up a totally different story on what he was doing that day. I feel that I can never trust him anymore. Should I confront him or not?

Katie

Dear  Katie - 

   Once the trust is broken in a relationship it is very hard to get that trust back. You have to decide if he lied once (that you know about) will he continue to do so. You never said what the lie was about. Cheating is a no brainer dump him and move on. I would be up front with him if you know for sure he lied to you and tell him  why he is being dumped.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My boyfriend told me that he wanted to date other girls. We have been going steady for six months. He wants to have sex and I said no. I don't want him to see other girls should I sleep with him?

Shannon

Dear Shannon  - 

   NO!  Don't sleep with him let him go as he will hold you to ransom every time he wants his own way. He seems very immature and spoiled. Start dating other guys and if he is for you he will find his way back if not then he isn't the one for you. Males are like buss's there will always be another coming.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am cooking my first Christmas dinner this year ,and very nervous. My parents and in-laws as well as siblings are invited. We will have a total of sixteen people. I have never cooked for this many at one time. My mother is a great cook and has offered to help me. My husband thinks if I ask my Mom then I should include his Mom in the preparation as well. She would just make me more nervous being there. Have you got any solutions?

Young bride

 

Dear  Y B - 

   Organization is the first rule in entertaining. Second is delegating. Invite your Mother-in-law  to look after the dessert and let her choose what to make at her place. Get your husband to help set up the table the night before. Ask your Mom to come over in the morning to help with the  turkey and stuffing and get the veggies  and potatoes ready with your husband. Once the turkey is in the oven it cooks itself except for basting. Make sure you have a sharp knife for carving, then the gravy is all that is left to do. Cooking for two or sixteen isn't much different only the quantities. If you relax so will your guests.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   Could you tell me what to do. I have a dog who I take with me everywhere I go, even to work as she is quiet, clean and well trained. I have been invited over to my boyfriend's parents house for Christmas dinner and told I can't bring my dog. Should I just arrive with the dog anyways?

Dog lover

 

Dear DL - 

   You have been told not to bring the dog, how much clearer do you need to be told? Why would you want to spoil the day for your boyfriend and family because of your rudeness. You have an alternative, stay home and have dinner with the dog. Add gravy to the kibbles and bits.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   Christmas will be here before we know it. My problem is I spend hours picking out gifts for my family members. I enjoy looking for something unique and within my budget. My sister-in-law doesn't enjoy shopping and  leaves her shopping till all the nice things are already chosen. Then to top it off she re-uses last years wrapping paper without even a bow attached. I told my husband he should talk to his sister and set her straight about buying something nice and useful for us. Am I out of line to suggest this?  She ruins every Christmas for me.

Thoughtful person

 

Dear  TP - 

   It seems to be your problem not your husband's, why not suggest to her to give you and yours a gift card this year as you understand she doesn't get off buying gifts? Or better still suggest maybe its time to stop buying for each other and just enjoy being together over a glass of wine. You should not let her ruin the holidays for you, only you can do this by letting this bother you. Is a bow that important? Christmas should be about enjoying family and friends, not about gifts.  About used paper, have you never heard of re-cycling?

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I come from a large family and we rotate who cooks Christmas dinner. It is our turn this year and I have suggested that everyone bring a dish along with a bottle of wine. My husband is mad and not talking to me because I did this on my own without consulting him. He said it looks like he is cheap and wants me to tell everyone not to bring anything. We can afford to do this on our own but I then have no help from him, he just sits and doesn't even help mixing drinks. So I am left tired and don't enjoy the day. How can I get him to understand that the family is getting too large for one person to do it all.  

exhausted

Dear  Exhausted - 

   Show him this,  tell him from me to get off his fat ass and help. It is a great idea for everyone to pitch in  and then everyone gets their favorite dish.  HO HO HO  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I need your help with my problem. I am married to a great guy and his father and I are having an affair. This has been going on for over a year now and we have fallen in love. He wants to leave his wife and wants me to leave his son. My mother-in-law is a bitch so I don't care about her, but hate to hurt my husband. How can I keep them both happy without upsetting the apple cart?       

Caring wife and lover

Dear CWAL - 

   Upsetting the apple cart? "Wow "you certainly have upset this family if you choose to leave your husband. The father-in-law sounds as immature as you do and he should know better. Nothing will help to keep them both happy. You say that your husband is a great guy, why not treat him like one. Stop and think very careful about your life and stop this affair before you ruin a whole family.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My sister and I had a great relationship until I started to see this guy. She doesn't like him and is very rude to him when he comes over. I have tried to ask her why and she will not discuss it with me. How can I make her like him?     

Sister

Dear  Sister- 

   You cannot make someone like another person, so stop trying. Have you been neglecting you're sister since hooking up with this fellow. Maybe she feels she has lost you as her sister and friend. Make sure that you don't spend all the time with him and start making plans for just the two of you to do things together like you did before he came on the scene. Many girls forget about other friends after getting a boyfriend. Boys come and go but you will always have a sister so keep the communication on going with her.  No excuse for rudeness though.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  Thanks for the great advice about getting my husband to go out with me. It only took me showing him your answer and he made plans that week-end. It certainly got  some action in and out of the bedroom. Thanks again A.J.

Not bored stiff anymore

Dear NBSA- 

   So glad to hear from you, just don't let him backslide. lol 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a bored housewife and thinking of having an affair with my next door neighbor. He is younger and flirts with me every time we see each other. I love my husband and children but would like some excitement in my life. Am I wrong in my thinking?   

Bored and wanting

Dear BAW - 

   Have you thought of any other ways of doing something with your life? A job, volunteering or getting a hobby that won't jeopardize your marriage?  If you decide on having an affair you might get more than you bargained for and end up single raising your children on your own. Not a good idea for boredom.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 
 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   How can I get my husband  to take me out to dinner and a movie once in awhile? He works hard but on the week-end he just wants to sit and watch sports. He says he is tired and I should be happy he brings his pay check home to me. We are in our early forties and I feel after looking after the kids all week I am entitled to a bit of entertainment on the week-end. Any help would be appreciated.

Bored stiff

Dear Bored Stiff - 

   Start making plans with girlfriends to go out, then let him stay home and babysit. A bored housewife can get into all kinds of trouble out on her own. Let him read this and I bet he will get off the couch pretty quick.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am having a hard time with my weight and my husband doesn't seem to want to have sex with me. He is a runner so has no trouble staying slim. I have had three children in five years and never seem to get back in shape after each one. I feel depressed all the time and do try to watch what I eat ,then bake cookies and eat the whole batch before my hubby comes home. How can I get my husband to want me sexually?    

Unhappy and fat

Dear UAF - 

   Go to your Doctor and get his help. Sometimes it is good to go to Weight Watcher or another weight loss clinic as you meet others with the same problem. And they weigh you weekly. Be honest with your husband and ask him for his support as you want to get sex back into your marriage.

Auntie Jane

 

 
 
 

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