even more letters and email  -  7


yes still even more selected emails

 

 

 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have been married for ten years and started having an affair with this married guy. My problem is he travels with his job and I think he has another girl he sees when travelling. How can I trust him to be faithful to me when he is away?  

Faithful in love to him

Dear FILTH - 

   Are you for real? You expect him to be faithful when he is having an affair while your both married  to others? If he does have another one on the side there may be more than one. You say your faithful to your lover but not to your husband. All I can say is have safe sex or you could be caught with some disease that would be hard to be explained.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am twelve years old and my Mom told me to write to you and ask your advice. I want to start wearing makeup. She says I am too young. My friends all wear some and I feel so out of place. Please help me change her mind.    

Erin

Dear  Erin - 

   Maybe your Mom would be fine if you just put a small amount of eyeliner on with a light lipstick to start with. Summer time most girls go very light on makeup as the natural look is much nicer. Less is best so if she see that you are only applying a slight amount she may allow it. Just don't overdo it and Mom might give you a little bit of slack. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   How do you tell when a friendship is over? I have known a man friend for over two years and have became sexually involved with him for over a  year. He phoned me most nights and we would talk for hours if we weren't seeing each other that night. Now the texts and calls only happen a few times a week and we are only seeing each other occasionally for sex. Am I wrong in thinking he isn't interested in me  anymore?

I am being faithful to him

 

Dear  IABFTH- 

   Sounds to me he is interested when he feels Horney, otherwise not so much. Time for you to move on to greener pastures.

Auntie Jane

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I think I am over my depth with this fellow I met through the internet. We have  been communicated for three months. Our conversations have been very sexual. In person I probably wouldn't have been so brave in telling him what I enjoy sexually. Now he wants to visit me on his holidays and has said what he would love to do to me . Now I don't know if I can live up to his expectations or not. What should I do?

Scared

Scare

Dear  Scared - 

   Just keep in mind that you are the one to call the shots. If he goes over the line in what you don't want to do then you have to be honest and tell him your limits. Sounds to me if you told him things you like they can't be far from what you expect sexually. Hopefully you have done some checking up on this person if not let someone know about him coming. He could be a very nice man who you have turned on with your  sexual banter. Hopefully he isn't a sadist or rapist. Do your homework before you meet him.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
    I am a women in my late fifties, I have been a widow for three years. My husband and I had a wonderful marriage and both enjoyed sex very much. I have had a few affairs but have never found a man that could satisfy me and they have all been over sixty. I think I am far to young to give up that part of my life. Do you think it would be appropriate to look for a younger man?

Betty

Dear Betty  - 

   Age doesn't mean a man cannot satisfy you, you just have not found the right person to turn you on. Younger or older what ever you try doesn't mean that one of these men will know what buttons to push. Give it time as I'm sure that your husband learned along the way. Don't be afraid to guide your lovers to what you want and expect. Be patient, Rome wasn't built in a day. You have many more years of sexual bliss to look forward to.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am having sex with three different men and each one is really good in bed. I am thinking of going off birth control as my time clock is ticking and  I don't want to get married. I am self supporting with a good size bank account and a trust fund, so could raise a child on my own. Should I pick the one that has the best genes to father this child and not tell him? Or just play Russian roulette ?     

Melanie

Dear Melanie - 

 o    Maybe keep the two best ones and let Horney wife have the third one.  If you plan on having a baby with either one, then you should discuss it with the father to be.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
    My husband has a problem with his sex drive which is nil. We are in out forties and I have a huge sexual appetite. I have asked him to see a doctor but he is too embarrassed to talk about it. I have threatened to have an affair, and all he says is go ahead. What should I do as I'm getting so frustrated and have started looking for a sex partner. 

Horney Wife 

 

Dear HW  - 

   Your husband could have a medical problem and is far too young not to be having sex. Or he may have lost interested in you? Any signs of him having an affair? Is he worried about his job? Make an appointment and go see your doctor and tell him the problem and then get your husband in to see him on his own. An affair is just putting a band aid on this problem. But then again a band aid is better than nothing.        

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
Five of us girls meet for coffee once a week to get caught up with each other. One of the girls goes on and on about her life's problems and never lets anyone else get a word in. It's all about her and we are getting tired of her same problems rehashed  every week. We all have agreed that we should just say we are not meeting and drop her from our group. Any suggestions ?  

Would like to make it a foursome

Dear  WLTMIAF - 

   Why not be honest and tell her what you have told me. Then give her a chance to listen to all of you. If she is on the same old problems speak up and tell her that you all have heard this one before. If she doesn't take the advice then she just likes to listen to herself talk.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have found myself  with a real problem and don't know how to get out of it. I fabricated a story to a girl friend so she would think I was really cool. Now she has found out the truth and has called me on it. She said she doesn't want to see me anymore and I feel terrible. I keep calling and her machine keeps coming on. How can I get her to talk to me?   

Barry

 

Dear Barry  - 

   "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive."  Leave her a message apologizing for the mistake and ask her to give you another chance. Then leave her alone, she may come around after a time. You will have to build up her trust again if she gives you a second chance. If not then you have learned a very useful lesson for the future relationships that come your way.

Auntie Jane

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My husband never has a bath or shower when he comes home from work. He has one in the morning before going to work so I have to smell him all night. He wants sex and says he smells fine as he puts some cologne on before coming to bed. This is a real turn off for me as I bath nightly. How can I get him to get clean before coming to bed?     

Kathleen

Dear  Kathleen - 

   Very simple tell him no bath or shower no sex. I'm sure he will change his mind eventually.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
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Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am trying to decide if I should tell my wife about the affair that I am having with a co-worker. As I am feeling guilty about it. It started out just going out for a drink after work with her and she always had to get home to her husband and kids. Now she has made up excuses to be away for longer periods of time. She wants to plan a week-end away and will say she is with a girlfriend. I don't have an excuse that my wife would believe and just can't get away. She is putting pressure on me daily and I am starting to feel trapped about this affair. Should I come out and tell my wife so I can move on and stop seeing this women. I  am afraid she will get very angry and phone my wife if I break up with her.

Greg

Dear Greg - 

   So you feel guilty and under pressure and want to make you're wife feel terrible. If she is married I'm sure she wouldn't want her husband to find out about this affair, so I wouldn't worry about it. Be honest and break it off as it seems like you have bitten off more than you can chew. And maybe think twice about having anymore affairs.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I work in an office with mostly women. I am finding that some of the women are turning me on sexually. I have only been with men and I'm wondering if I'm bi-sexual?  One girl in particular seems to flirt and has asked if I would like to meet for drinks at a bar she goes to. I looked it up and found it to be a gay bar. Should I let on that I know or just play dumb and meet her there ?   

Wondering what it would be like

Dear  WWIWBL - 

   I'm not saying you shouldn't experiment and find out about yourself sexually. But I wouldn't get into it with someone you work with. Could get very embarrassing if it didn't work out for the two of you. Remember you have to work with all these  co-workers and she might be one to kiss and tell. Sounds like she knows her sexuality if she hangs out in a gay bar. Why play dumb, she would appreciate your honesty.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My boyfriend sulks when he doesn't get his own way and it is driving me away from him. I have tried everything from coddling him to giving him sex to get him back in a good mood. This has been going on for over a year. Any suggestions?  

Tiff     

 

Dear Tiff  - 

   Why reward someone for bad behavior. Dump him and tell him why. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am fifteen years old and still a virgin. My boyfriend keeps wanting me to have sex with him. I want to wait till I get married and he says that is stupid. Should I give in?

Cinnie

Dear Cinnie  - 

   Every girl has the right to decide about her virginity, not a guy. So don't let any boyfriend decide what is right for you. At fifteen you will have many boyfriends to choose from through the years. You and you alone will know when its right for you. Just enjoy the dating and friendships now.

Auntie Jane

 
 

 
 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
    Need some advice. I have been having a hard time with my mother-in-law since I met her four years ago. I know she doesn't like me and always talks about her first daughter-in-law who she still says was the nicest person. I don't mind that she still see her and likes her, but tired  of hearing about it. When I comment to my husband he says just to ignore her . I am at the stage that I don't want to even see her as each visit we have she brings this girl up. Am I wrong in wanting my husband to tell her to stop? 

Valerie

Dear  Valerie - 

    What is wrong with your voice? Tell her you are glad that she still has a relationship with this girl, but the subject does not interest you or your husband. And that after four years you two have moved on and your husband agrees, so she should  move to other subject around the two of you.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -

   My son has been married for 10 months.  Even before the wedding, I insisted they go for couples counseling. They went, but I did not ask for any details.
The 10 months have been very rocky. Neither have savings, neither have steady jobs, and both sets of in-laws are not in a position to help out much.
They appear to fight a lot. I believe they have no respect for each other and are both lazy.  I try not to interfere. Once I got a call from my son, just before a holiday, asking if he can come to us for the holiday, Him not them.  So I went to fetch him, and decided to take my daughter in law too, and let them try to work it out in my home rather than theirs.  It appeared to work.  They left loving each other again. And since then, the relationship has held although still rocky.

My son has just been retrenched, so he's home all day supposedly looking for work.  My daughter in  law now wants him to do all the housework.  He feels that when he was working and she was home all day, she did nothing, so he'll do some housework but she still has to do her things.  Both of them are Very messy and very lazy about house work.
Now she calls me and asks me to help get him to a psychologist because he's taking his depression over the job out on her, and not doing anything at home.
I don't think this calls for a psychologist yet.  I think both of them should do more to help each other. Should I stay out of this and how can I without being un-supportive? If I do get involved what do I do with them?

Rebecca 

Dear  Rebecca - 

   It is great to be supportive of family. Just try not to take sides with the two of them.  If they needed counseling before the marriage it does sound rocky now.  Any marriage needs an adjustment period, you might want to help them understand if they have a common goal? Money problems can often lead to separations. There are often small casual jobs on sites like Craigslist and local unemployment offices always have available help.  Will your son take any job temporarily? He needs to start somewhere. If your daughter-in-law is working then he needs to help out at home.

And they do sound immature in solving their own problems. They have to learn to have respect for each other and to stand on their own.  Itís fine for you to help out occasionally as long as they donít become dependent on the family for money and you donít become an enabler. Jobs are scarce but sometimes you have to take one that is below your level just to pay your way.

Ten months married, they will either work this marriage out or not. You canít be the one to make it work for them. Depression needs to be diagnosed by a medical doctor. Then some action can be taken, but it seems they are just caught up in a hopeless situation right now and do need some direction.  
Try to be encouraging without taking over.
  

Auntie Jane

 

 

  
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I need help. I can't talk to anyone about my problem. I make food and then put it in the freezer and when my husband isn't around I eat it all up. I have gone as far as making a batch of cookies and eaten them all before he gets home from work. He asked me the other day what happened to the roast I bought recently  and I had to lie and say it was in the freezer and said I would cook it for dinner tomorrow. Then I had to go buy another one to cook for him. I am overweight and keep gaining. What can I do to break this habit?   

Abnormal I know

Dear  AIK - 

   Get to your Doctor and tell him what is going on, before you have health problems with your weight. They have groups you can join as this is not only your problem. Talking to the doctor is the first step and he will direct you in the right direction. One of the main reasons for overeating is boredom frustrations in everyday life and low self esteem. You can overcome this with the right help.  Meanwhile get your hubby a gift certificate for one for a good steak dinner.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  Iíd like to know your opinion on a very personal situation. A close married friend of mine recently shared a confidentially; that she has a lesbian girlfriend who she calls her 'friend with benefits' .  Although I disapproved  initially, I am now thinking of having a similar relationship.  I am 42 and also married but have read that a lot of  married women are having no-strings-attached relationships. I have not been with another woman before, so not sure how to start looking for a partner. Do you think as my first experience, I should enjoy more being with an older woman or a younger woman?  I haven't shared my intentions with my friend and am not planning to.

Dee

 

Dear Dee - 

  Married women have affairs, sometimes with other women. It is still an affair even with a  same sex partner if you are married. A few things to think about before you decide; Are you just wanting to experiment with someone different from your husband? Are you sure you are attracted to other women sexually?  Or is this intrigue only a reflection of frustration with your current sex life. And I could ask if you are thinking about this NSA thing because your friend is doing it? Are you willing to lose your husband and family if you are found out? If you decide to have a relationship with another woman I wouldnít be telling anyone, even your close friend.

I would give you the same advice if it was a male you were thinking of having this Ďaffairí with. You are the only one who can make this decision. As for an age range sensuality can be present in women of all ages, lesbians included.  You can't go to Lesbians-R-Us and pick one out. Sometimes you can throw caution to the winds and go for it, but it may not be gentle breezes.

Auntie Jane

 
 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My lover is a real sweetheart, but not into oral sex and I really enjoy it. How can I get him to participate? He always seems to enjoy when I give it to him and then rolls over and wants sex. We have been seeing each other for a few months now and I always feel unfulfilled when he won't give me what I want. How do I get him to make me feel special? 

Amorous

Dear  Amorous - 

  By your question are you just his lover and he really isn't your lover.

   Before he arrives have a long bath and phone him while in the tub. Talk to him about what you would like him to do when he arrives. Let him take the lead and lay back and let him know how much you enjoy the oral part of the sex act. If he doesn't take the hint drop him and find someone that wants to make you feel like you will make him feel. Sex is a two way street.

 

Auntie Jane

 
 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a single female with lots of friends, but yet to find the love of my life. I could go out every night of the week with men that are semi attached to live- ins and married men whose wives don't understand them. I have a full life with many friends and wonder if I'm better off single.    

Tiffany

Dear  Tiffany - 

   Don't waste your time with  men that have a growth attached to them. You will always find married men whose wife's don't understand them. That line is so old, I wish they all had the brains for a new saying. Live-ins are in the same category. Join something that interests you and with summer coming lots of outdoor sports will be starting. Just don't look in bars as all you will find there is drinkers. Better single that have someone who is already taken. When you least expect the love of you're life to appear he will. Stop looking and just enjoy each challenge.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have had a lover for two years and he seems to be moving away from me mentally and physically. Should I be worried that he will leave me? Neither of us had made any commitment to each other and after this long I don't feel I can bring this up in fear of losing him.  

Betty

Dear Betty  - 

   What I get out of your letter is you don't have much self confidence as you mentioned twice that you were afraid he will leave you. No commitment after two years on either side, seems that either way he isn't into you as you to him. Maybe its time to call him on a commitment or move on to someone that is willing to do so. Or just go on wondering when and if he will leave you.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My husband and I have a good sex life. But we are getting on in years and wonder if we may be having sex too often for our age. We are  to embarrassed to ask our Dr. what is appropriate at this stage in our life

Mr. and Mrs.

Dear M and M - 

   There are no rules as far as I'm aware of on how many times a day, week or month that you can have sex. The old saying "use it or lose it may apply." So enjoy and certainly don't feel guilty as long as your both are enjoying and your health permits. Read my latest poll and you are right on. If you want to have it again this year go ahead.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   Oh, I loved your answer to Second place , what is she thinking his wife will always come first. I've been there and had to find out the hard way. Never again for me. Thanks for all the comments and laughs A.J.

 Beverly

Dear  Beverly - 

   Thank you Beverly, hope you keep coming back and please comment again.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am obsessed with my neighbor. He is a very handsome man married like myself and works around his yard with no shirt on. Every time I see him  I feel so "Horney " I can't contain myself. I know he puts on a show for me as he knows I watch him. Should I invite him him for a coffee and see what happens?

Jen

Dear  Jen - 

   I think you may get more than you bargain for, if he is putting on a show because he knows you are watching him. All you will get is trouble and probably two broken marriages. Go find another hobby and stay away from you're windows when he is putting on his exhibition.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My neighbor and I are the same age and both are widows. We go on outings together and have tea together a few times a week in the afternoon. She has made it clear she is not available on Mondays and Fridays as she has a male friend who comes those days. I feel she is not including me  and introducing us and what is she hiding from me. Should I just knock on her door when I know he is there?

Mildred

Dear Mildred  - 

   What is it you are looking for a threesome? You may be very embarrassed if you knock and one of them comes to the door naked. If you want to remain friends leave her alone the days she has told you she is not available. Go find your own lover.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a fifty-five year old guy divorced twice and my girlfriend wants a commitment from me in two weeks or she wants me out of her house. We have lived together for two years and I like her but not sure I want to go down that path again. My two ex wives have the houses as I gave up everything and now have to live in someone else's place. I feel pressured and want more time to figure my life out. She says I'm selfish and if I love her it would be easy to make this commitment. She is good in bed. Any help would be appreciated.

Bob

 

Dear  Bob - 

   With your track record of two ex wives, I would suggest you find a place of your own and spend some time thinking of what you want to happen in your life. Most men want to be loved so jump into a relationship just to have someone. If it's the sex you are after that is easy to find. If it is a long term commitment I don't think you would be writing me  if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. She sounds like she is a stepping stone for you as you said you like her not love her. Spend time living alone and get to know yourself before any commitment.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am going out with two guys, one has a very good job, but not that great in bed. The other is out of work and has been for six months so I have to foot the bill if we go out. He is fantastic in bed though, so I feel like he is my gigolo. I am reaching the age that I would like to start a family in the next few years and wonder if I would be wrong to pick my gigolo over the one that would always look after me and our family.

Ginger   

 

Dear  Ginger - 

   Maybe neither one is the right one for you. I would start dating other guys and see what is out there. If you want to work and support the gigolo and have great sex then maybe he is the one for you. Lousy sex and money isn't the combo I would look for in a partner either. Don't settle so quickly, look around and see who is out there that has some of both attributes.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I just broke up with my lover, one of the reasons being he is married and can't spend the time with me that I want him to. I am single mid forties and enjoy sex very much. He is only available when he can get away from his domineering wife. He keeps phoning when she is at work and wants me to rush home to have sex with him at his convenience. He tells me he loves me. How can I get him to put me first?

Feel like second place

Dear  FLSP - 

   Hello! You are in second place, his wife will always come first. So get used to it, if you are going to pick a married man to have an affair with . It's easy for a man to tell you he loves you if he is getting sex from you. Why not put more effort into a single guy with no attachments. Then he will be available to you on demand. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   In regards to K and C letter. I think it's fabulous that they have such a great sexual relationship. Sure beats mine. I get a bang thank you and then he is off to the sports channel. Would love to have this kind of relationship with my husband.

Trudy

 

Dear  Trudy - 

   Sorry you are missing out with the laughter in you're sex life. Laughter is the best medicine for a healthy lifestyle. Sex also keeps you young in heart and body. Tell your partner to turn off the sports and he might try turning you on and get more than he bargained for. If that doesn't work tell him sex is a sport and you might start looking for new team mates.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   Are my husband and I crazy after sex we roll over sometimes hitting the floor and actually keep laughing for quite awhile. We have always had a great sex life and this is something new. I'm sure our neighbors must hear us as we are loud and boisterous. Are we normal?

K and C

 

Dear K and C- 

   What a nice normal couple, sex is suppose to be fun and boisterous.  You could pass on the jokes so we all can laugh too.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

                                      

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   What can I do with a husband that constantly works on his old car? He ignores me and I am left to go out into the cold garage if I want to have a conversation with him. I work all day and would love to have his attention when I get home. Any suggestions on how to keep him inside the house with me.

Irene

Dear Irene  - 

    Have you tried putting on your housecoat with nothing on underneath and going out in the cold garage and ask him if he would please keep you warm with some loving? If that doesn't work blow up his car and lose the competition.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My wife has never understood me. I am a very sexual man and need to have sex often . She thinks twice a month should keep me happy and it certainly doesn't do it for me. I have threatened to find it elsewhere and all I get from her is she gets half of whatever we have. How can I get her more interested in sex? I don't think she has ever had an orgasm or even enjoys intercourse. Help as I'm ready to walk out and find myself a women who knows how to please a man.

Harry

Dear Harry - 

   How many times have I heard that my wife doesn't understand me. Yes she does get half of everything, but are you only giving her a half hearted effort in the bedroom? I get a distinct feeling that perhaps you might expect her to be pleasing you when it should be mutual. You could visit a sexual counselor together. Or she could go see her gynecologist to see if she has something wrong for her not to attain many climaxes having sex. If she is fine then maybe you need to learn a few techniques on how to turn her on and enjoy sex with you. OMO.

Auntie Jane

 

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Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have been reading some of your replies and you certainly don't pull any punches in your answers. If I had a friend like you I might be afraid  to ask. Or maybe afraid to hear the answers. Thanks for keeping me entertained. I just might get the courage to ask you about my dilemma's in the future.

Eleanor

Dear  Eleanor - 

   Glad your entertained and jump right in,  after all you are anonymous. You  don't have to take my advice, just my opinion and I certainly have those. lol

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have been chasing this guy for over six months and can't seem to get him to pay me any attention. I go to a bar that he does with his buddies. He is always polite but always leaves alone. The bartender says he is married, but he doesn't wear a wedding ring. Should I just ask him to drive me home at this point I don't care if he is married or not. I just want him.

Christina

Dear Christina - 

   If this guy hasn't paid any attention to you in six months, you should have got the message by now. He probably has someone at home that is more interesting than you. Just for the future never go to a bar that a guy goes to with his buddies hoping to get picked up. Look for another place to hunt.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a forty three year old women, divorced for a year and would like to start dating again. Some of my ex-husbands friends  have been calling me for a date. I'm not sure if this would be appropriate to go out with any of them and would like to hear what you think?

Sue

Dear  Sue - 

   I don't see any reason why not, hopefully you and your ex are on speaking terms and still get along. If it was an amicable separation he probably won't mind. Although at this point it's none of his business. If it was a messy divorce it may be a good idea to find some new friends to date.  Or if you're into vengeance you could do ALL his friends.  Kidding of course ...................... Maybe not!.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
I loved your comment for Caitlin A.J. How can some women be so naive going into relationships. Thanks for the good laugh.  

Bev

Dear  Bev - 

   And many of these people walk amongst us. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am fifty years old and feel life is passing me by. I have been married for twenty-five years ,love my husband very much. I have been thinking lately about having an affair just for the sex with no love involved. I would like your opinion and comments please. 

Sara

Dear  Sara - 

   Your walking a narrow line here, what happens if you do fall in love with a lover. At fifty I am assuming your life is established with a loving husband and children. Ask yourself is it because your just feeling bored, going through the change of life or just want more male attention. If you answer yes to all three find another hobby.

Auntie Jane

 
 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My husband has never satisfied me in bed, but I care for him. Should I look elsewhere for this sexual satisfaction? There is a guy at work I have been thinking about the only problem is he has slept around with most of the girls in our office. They all say he is a great lover but  I worry about catching something and then how I would explain a sexual disease to my husband. Help please.

Caitlin

Dear Caitlin - 

   If he has been having unprotected sex with all the office and your even contemplating going to bed with him your crazy. You don't say you love you're husband, if your not in love with him why stay married? Marriage is not all about sex, but it certainly helps a relationship. Maybe its you not pushing the right buttons for him.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   Another Christmas is here and I have the same problem every year. My whole family doesn't get along and they have a big fight every year on Christmas day. My husband and I have them all here every year as we have the biggest house. How can we stop this sibling rivalry and our parents do nothing to stop it? 

Kate's family

Dear K F- 

   Very simply  don't invite them this year and let them all fight in someone else's house.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have met a wonderful guy  and have been on three dates over the last few weeks. My question is should I buy him a Christmas present?

Connie

Dear  Connie - 

   Maybe bring up the subject with him. It's early in the relationship at this point to buy each other a gift, could suggest a dinner out to celebrate" Dutch" treat. Or a nice bottle of wine for a toast to each other.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
  II have been going with this guy for two months and never had an orgasm. He said that I'm frigid and that is why. How can I have them, is it me or him?  

Bev

Dear Bev - 

   Maybe it's because he doesn't know how to turn you on, or is not taking the time to arouse you sexually when having sex. Some women take longer to reach an orgasm than others. It is usually because the man is inexperienced at making love, and the women has not experienced a good lover yet. You never mentioned love in your e-mail so maybe if you are not in love move on it's only been two months with this guy that is calling you frigid.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   Who is the crazy one? My parents have suggested we move in with them as I got pregnant and we were not planning on a family till we had our own home. They have really been pushing for this, no strings attached, but my Dad is a control freak and my husband never agrees with him. My husband doesn't get along well with either of them. We would pay no rent and could save for a down payment.  I told him he could try harder to get along as this is a great opportunity for us. My Mom has offered to look after the baby so I can go back to work. She would do all the cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping. I can see this working out fine, but can't get my husband to cooperate with the plan. Is he crazy or not?

Kelly and Ron

Dear  Kelly and Ron - 

   You ask who is the crazy one. I would say your Mom and you. Your Mom sounds like she hasn't let go of you and you sound like a spoiled brat. It might take longer to get your own place, but then Ron would still be with you to enjoy it. Children revert back to kids when they go back home to live with their parents, not a good scenario.   

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My Mom asked me if I knew if my sister was having sex with her boyfriend. I know she is but said I didn't. Now I feel  guilty about lying to my Mom and if I tell I will betraying my sister. What should I do?

Marini

Dear Marini - 

   First off you're Mom should have asked your sister not you, so tell your sister that she asked and if she wants to tell your Mom leave it up to her.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My girlfriend just got caught shoplifting and won't tell her parents. She said it was the first time and will never do it again. I thing she should fess up , because she may have to go to court . I'm sure her parents will eventually find out and be madder than if she told them. Should I tell them?

Mike

Dear Mike - 

   Mike this is your girlfriends problem so let her deal with it. If this was her first time it will be a very good lesson for her. I'm sure she won't do it again. First time offenders never usually get taken to court unless she stole a very large amount.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My girlfriends calls me a orgasm chaser, they won't elaborate on what they means by this. Have you ever heard this saying before?  

Lacy

 

Dear  Lacy - 

   Yes I have, my definition would be that you love orgasms and every chance you have of having one you take it. Maybe  they are just  jealous  

Auntie Jane

 

 
 
 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am fifteen and sexually active with two different guys. One is better at sex the other one is on the football team and popular with all the girls. I have to choose as they want to go steady with me. I can't make up my mind which one to choose from. I know I would be invited to more things with the football player and my friends would be jealous as he is so good looking. But have more sex and fun with the other one. Please help with some advice.

Tina

 

Dear Tina - 

   At fifteen you should not be having sex with two guys to start with, hopefully you are having safe sex. I guess it depends on what is most important for you at this time. Having your friends be jealous of you and be seen in more places with the football player. Or look and see what the other fellow has to offer besides good sex.

Auntie Jane

 

 
 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My neighbor keeps coming over when my husband isn't home and flirts. I know she is gay and has told me she would love to take me to bed and satisfy me like only a women can do for another women. She knows that my husband really can't get me to have orgasms and I am wondering if I should let her have her way with me. Would that count as cheating?

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous - 

   You must know already that it would be cheating or you would have signed your name. You must have told this friend about your lack on orgasms, isn't that a flirt.  If you want me to say go ahead fine, but it is still classified as cheating but then again its only a orgasm. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I found  out my Dad is having an affair with my Moms friend. He denied this when I asked. What should I do?

Alisha

Dear Alisha - 

   What your parents do is really not your concern. Maybe your Mom knows and just doesn't want to deal with it. Tell your Dad that you would like to talk to him about it and if he wants to he will. Otherwise leave it alone.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I don't know if this subject is taboo here? My partner has been talking about having sex with other couples. I find talking about this subject makes me very excited and wonder if we did it, would it ruin our good marriage that we have together?

L@M

Dear L@M - 

    You say you have a good marriage, will it be good after you both see each with other partners? Only the two of you can decide this. Thoughts or talking about it is still in the 'fantasy' area, no harm no foul, but  if you do go ahead then make sure you have protected sex and no pictures. They could come back to haunt both parties later. To each his own.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have a fetish about small breasts, most men like them large. I hate the phony ones and can spot them a mile off. Oriental women seem to all have small ones. But I'm not into them at all. It's the young perky ones that turn me on. Am I weird or what?

Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous - 

   I don't think your weird, you just seem to know what you like. Nothing wrong with that.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My boyfriend and I had sex at the beach this summer and it turned us both on. We are heading to China for holidays and wonder in we would get into trouble doing it there? 

US

Dear  US - 

   If you can find any space at the beach in China be sure they don't arrest you as they seem to have stricter laws in some areas there. Just be discreet .

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am having a lesbian experience and find it so intoxicating being in bed with another women. This is the first time for both of us and we are finding out what sex is all about. We both have been with men, but this is over the top on being satisfied. Do you think this is a phase or are we lesbians? 

Kate @ Leila

Dear K@L - 

   Sorry I'm not a mind reader, why not just go with the flow and enjoy each others company for the time. Sometimes it will fade out or maybe not. 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  My wife is going through the change of life and has no interest in sex. How can I get her to want my body for both are pleasure? I am skilled at making love, but I can't seem to turn her on. Any suggestion on how I can get her in the mood again? 

Ken

Dear  Ken - 

   Some women need hormones to get past this stage. Hopefully she will go see her doctor as there is no reason for you both not to have a active sex life as she is going through this natural progression in life. Some women get more sexually active when going through menopause, some don't. Be patient and maybe try stimulating her more before the act. One suggestion keep the bedroom window open for a natural draft.

Auntie Jane

 

 

                                    

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  I saw my girlfriends husband with another women having coffee. Should I tell her?

Best friend

Dear BF - 

   Be a best friend and keep your mouth shut. Just because someone is having a coffee together doesn't mean that anything else is going on. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   About fuming wife. I have a wife that flirts too. Does the same rules apply to women? I get so pissed when we are out with friends and she starts flirting with men at the surrounding tables and  our waiters.

Ben

Dear Ben - 

   Same advice to you Ben, hope you get better service from the waiters though. Live, laugh and be happy.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My parents are getting to the age of being very forgetful and I think that they should think about going into a home. I have discussed this with them and they won't even consider it. A women comes in twice a week to cook and clean and do their grocery shopping. They have good health now ,but what happens if they get sick. Should I go ahead and look for a place for them?

Marty

Dear Marty - 

   Sounds like they have help to keep them in their own place. Older people do much better when living together on their own unless their health is not good. You can always get help to come in more often if you see that they are not eating properly and taking care of their hygiene. Until that time arrives leave them to enjoy their time together.   

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
    My husband is a real flirt, he is constantly coming on to women. He knows it bothers me but won't stop. How can I get him to break this habit?  

Fuming wife

Dear  FW - 

  Some men just love to flirt as it builds their ego. At least he isn't doing it behind your back and it's out in the open. He is probably harmless and likes to see the reaction if any he gets back from the women he is flirting with.  Ignore him and don't you react and he may stop, just don't count on it. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a widow , and very lonely. My lady friends invite me out as a group with their spouses, but I always feel strange and have stopped going. I have no children to turn to and just wonder if life is worth all the pain. I went out for dinner with a man and all he talked about was what was my house worth and how many investments that I had. Otherwise he was a nice man and has called a few times. Should I go out again with him?

Sad and lonely

Dear  SAL - 

   Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out and join things that interest you. You have to realize your life has changed and will never be the same without your husband, but life goes on and it's up to you to make an effort to socialize or you will end up an old uninteresting women. Why not go out with this man that calls, he might have just been making conversation. You have no children so why worry about your assets at this stage. Its acceptable for you to call him too.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have been married for three months to a wonderful man. We both work hard and only have time on the week-ends to enjoy our sex life. Problem is his parents wants us over to their house for brunch every Sundays with all his family. I refused to go last week and stayed in bed, now his family isn't talking to me. I don't feel comfortable telling them the reason we don't want to come every week. How can I handle this ?

Want sex on Sundays

Dear  WSS - 

   Its your husbands parents let him deal with them. He can say you both will try and make it once a month. Then after brunch go home and enjoy the rest of your day together. No reason newly weds cannot make time through the week too. Or maybe you just don't want to go see his family and using this as an excuse. Your call.

Auntie Jane


 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My sons wife is a real flirt and she keeps coming on to my husband. He enjoys this and flirts back at her. It doesn't bother me as I know its just playful, but my son has asked me to talk to my husband about this. I think he should do this himself as I don't think it would do any good if I did.  And I don't want to look jealous. She is ten years older than my son and a very beautiful girl. Should I be the one to talk to my husband?

Love them both

Dear  LTB  -  

   I think if your son and his father have a good relationship then he should talk to him. If not then be a good mother and talk to your husband and tell him that your son asked you to as it bothers him. If you all want to enjoy your times together then he should stop and so should your daughter-in-law. Meanwhile why doesn't your son put a stop to it by discussing his feelings with his wife?

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I just found out my husband has been cheating on me since we have been married with his old girlfriend. I thought we had a happy marriage the last four years and now I'm pregnant and wonder if I should terminate the pregnancy before it's too late. He swears that he will stop his affair if I have this baby. I am twenty-two years old and wonder if I want to spend anymore time with him. He said I would be committing a sin if I do, he is Catholic. I have lost all the love I had for him and know that I would never forgive him for this and will file for a divorce. I just don't know what to do but have to decide soon. Any help with suggestions would be appreciated.

Annemarie

 

Dear  Annemarie    -  

   So he is Catholic and didn't think he was committing any sins for four years? He WILL stop the affair? You mean he has not already? You are very young to raise a child on your own and would have to spend the rest of your life with him if you choose to have this baby. Only you can make this decision. Talk to your doctor or a professional counselor to help you decide what is the best for your life.  If you do decide on a divorce AND/OR to have this baby, you'll need to have a lawyer involved too.  Their will be financial costs to consider as well as the emotional costs.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I work with this guy who is much younger than myself. He has been flirting with me for some time. I have been married for seven years and love my husband. But I have started having sexual dream about  this stud. How can I stop these dreams?

Feel I'm betraying my husband

 

Dear FIBMH - 

   Dreams are dreams why not just enjoy them while sleeping. The trouble starts when it becomes a reality.  

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have been going with my boyfriend for six months and he said that if I don't go all the way he is going to break up with me. I don't want to lose him but I don't feel ready to take that big step. What should I do?

Want to stay a virgin for now.

 

Dear WTSAVFN - 

    Dump him. Never do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. You are the one in control, never forget this. He sounds very immature to give you this ultimatum.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   A guy who I have known for ten years, keeps phoning for us to hook up. I am wondering if we would be opening a Pandora box if we met. The sexual attraction has always been there between us. I am temped for the excitement of it. He is married I'm not. Should we?

Sexy in Nevada

Dear SIN  - 

  

 Only you can decide, Pandora, sounds like he has an itch that he wants scratched.   

Auntie Jane

 
 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I was shopping the other day, a man came up to me and started talking as we went through the line-up. He asked if I felt like a coffee after helping me to my car with my purchases, so the next thing I knew we had talked for two hours. We are both happily married and he asked if I would consider meeting him one night for a drink to finish our conversation. I must say it was a very interesting conversation (sexual) and I felt like twenty again. Would that be called cheating on our spouses if we did?

Grandmother and Granddad .

Dear  GAG  - 

   Just because you're grandparents doesn't mean you are dead from the waist down. BUT, the key words for me were, "... you felt like twenty again."  It would be considered cheating if you decided to have sex before or after the drinks.  I have a feeling you have already made up your mind.

 ďAnything worth having is a thing worth cheating for.Ē
~ W. C. Fields

Auntie Jane

 

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Dear Auntie Jane -
   Now that my family had a big fight at our place on Thanksgiving, nobody wants to spend Christmas together. My kids were upset at all the yelling and screaming so no fun was had. We went to some expense and hard work to put this on and all we got was turmoil. How can I get everyone to get along and come for Christmas?

Erin

Dear Erin - 

   Why would you bother with these people? Tell them all it's one day to get along and get through. If they can't do that then to stay home. If some choose not to come it's their loss. If you have friends with no family invite them,  sometimes people will be on their best behavior when strangers are around. They'll want to pretend they're better than yelling and screaming, and you can pretend you're enjoying the day.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have two daughters who are constantly fighting. The fourteen year old teases my twelve years old and she ends up in tears most days. I have tried to get them to get along to no avail, it's ruining our family life. HELP.  

Frustrated Mom

Dear  FM- 

  Sounds like sibling rivalry, is the younger one crying to get more attention? Take away all privileges for two weeks that includes all phones, till they learn to get along. You are the adult so don't give in till they learn.

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I live in a neighborhood with people from many different cultures. An Italian man this summer started to bring me vegetables from his garden. It started as a very nice gesture on his part and I looked forward to seeing him a few times a week. I would be sitting with my coffee out on my patio and it got into a habit of him joining me. He was unemployed  and I needed a few repairs done around my house. I asked if he was interested in making some extra cash, he readily agreed. This Persian lady two doors down, came up to me saying I should be ashamed of myself having an affair with this younger man. Hell he is younger and we are having an affair, but I don't think this is any of her business. What should I say to her.

good good neighbors

Dear  N- 

   I would tell her to mind her own business and keep her gossip to herself. What you do is none of anyone's business, and tell her to go find a hobby and stay out of your life. Maybe she is jealousy, that she isn't getting any of the neighbors action.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have a problem that I can't ask my friends about, thought you may have an answer for me. I have trouble climaxing without help from my vibrator. My husband says this is not normal. But when I give him head he comes right away. I say what's the difference, if we both enjoy the sex. He has hidden my vibrator from me, and won't tell me where it is. What should I do?

MMV

Dear MMV - 

   Simple, stop giving him  BJ's . I'm sure he will come to realize both of you should be enjoying yourselves.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have two daughters seventeen and fourteen and the oldest is constantly teasing her sister and she ends up in tears most days. How can I put a stop to this as it is ruining our family life?

Frustrated Mom

Dear FM - 

   Sounds like sibling rivalry which is very common in most families. Is the younger one looking for more attention and crying because she gets it when she does? Maybe they both needs more chores to keep them occupied and out of each others way. Or take away their screen privileges till they act nicer towards each other. And make them stick to the rules of the household. You should have the control being the adult.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -

   I have been on my own for some time. I have what some would call a fetish. I love sex but can only climax when I have my gun lying beside me in bed. Some men donít mind after they check to make sure there are no bullets in the gun. Itís too much for some men and they canít get their equipment up, no matter how I try to get them aroused. Do you think I have a problem or they do? Do you think this is why I'm still on my own?

Gun lover

Dear  Gun Lover   -  

   OMG where do you people come from? This could be one of the reasons.  When you come across a guy  who looks like a good potential for bedding, maybe try putting your gun under the bed. Hopefully with it close you can still climax.

Auntie Jane

 

 
 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
    I am a divorced women in my forties. I am enjoying myself but certainly missing the sex in my life. I have been out on a few dates, but have not found anyone that has satisfied me in that department. I have a gay girlfriend who asked me to give her a chance to show me how another women could give me pleasure and satisfaction. Meaning her. She and I have been friends for years but never gone that route. I don't want to lose her as a friend, so hesitate to get intimate with her. HELP. 

Need some relief soon

Dear NSRS  -  

   Lay down some ground rules before hand. So she knows that you may not bat for her team, but would like to try, if you feel comfortable doing so. Or you could get yourself a vibrator and some sex toys to play around with alone. Or start a exercise program to get rid of your excess energy. I am sure there are many men out there that would love to try to satisfy you. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places.

Auntie Jane

 

 
 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have a big problem. I have been dating three women for over a year. One is fantastic in bed she makes me feel like I'm taking a trip to the moon every time we have sex. Second one is really beautiful and has a body that leaves nothing to my imagination, and every thing she owns is real, but doesn't like to get down and dirty in the sex department. The third comes from a family with money and I would be set up for life. But has no imagination in bed. My dilemma is I am thinking of getting married in the next year, so have to make up my mind on which one I should choose. Who do you think would make the best wife? 

 

 

Garth

Dear   Garth  -  

    I guess it depends what you like best, sex beauty or money. My thinking is they maybe should dump you before they get stuck with you.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
  Re- Kathy,

I got an e-mail saying you shouldn't have to quit your job.

 

Dear  Kathy  -  

    The person commented that you can buy a lot of crŤme for the bruises . So take either advice.

Auntie Jane

 


 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   What is wrong with men? I work in a bar and get hit on every night. Most are married men, some take their wedding ring off (can see where it was) and some just blatantly wear them. They get braver the more they drink and keep hitting on me all night. Must say they tip well though. I don't flirt , but get bruises from them pinching me.

Kathy K

Dear Kathy K - 

 

Guess you have to decide if the tips are worth the bruises. Or get another job.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
  me

  My boyfriend dumped me three months ago while I was looking after my dying Dad. I was left a large amount in his will. Now my boyfriend wants me to come back to him, I don't know if it's me or the money he is interested in. Should I consider taking him back?  

Money or me

 

Dear  MOM - 

 

 HELLO, give you're head a shake, of course it's the money. If it is a large amount get some financial advice and not from him.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
    I am a nice looking man in my forties and only looking for a women to meet up with once a week for sexual pleasure . I am getting frustrated as I can't seem to fine anyone that only wants sex. I have tried dating sites and putting an ad in the local paper. Any suggestions for me.

Richard

 

Dear  Richard - 

   Maybe get Mommy to arrange a play date, or pay a call girl and get what you're looking for.   

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   All my boyfriend wants is sex every time we get together . He never takes me out to a movie or dinner and we sit home every week-end and fight about this. Am I wrong about wanting to be treated out for a nice dinner rather than him picking up a pizza on his way over or me cooking for him? Then he expects sex before his sports on television.

Rachael

 

Dear  Rachael  - 

    If he treats you like this and you're not even married what happens if you get married? A relationship isn't about him getting satisfied with sex and a pizza and his sports programs. You need to be wined and dined and romanced. If he is not willing to be that person dump him and move on with you're life. 

Auntie Jane

 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a guy who has a fetish about toes. My girlfriend just laughs when I ask if I can suck her toes. She has the most beautiful toes that I have ever seen. Am I wrong in wanting to caress and suck on these ten lovely toes? 

Markus

 

Dear Markus - 

   There are many fetishes, so no harm if she allows you the pleasure. If I were her I would make sure I had a pedicure beforehand though.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have been going out with this guy for two months. He e-mailed me and broke up. I don't know what I did wrong. Should I phone and ask him?  I though everything was fine.

Maria

Dear Maria - 

   E-mailing someone is a very immature way to break up.  I wouldn't phone him as he broke up this way as he didn't want to talk to you. You probably did nothing wrong it's him who has the problem. Move on my dear as boys are like busses there is always another one that comes along.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
    What should  I do? My girlfriend will not experiment in bed sexually with me, we have been going out for over a year and she only wants to have sex one way, I have to be on top. She has never given me a blow job or done anything kinky and just keeps saying I'm lucky that she gives me sex three times a week.

Very unhappy in the sex department.

Dear VUITSD  -  

    Maybe that would satisfy some men, but if you plan on getting married to this women plan on a very boring sex life as she won't change because she has a ring on her finger. I would find a girl that is more into exploring sex as you seem to be. Or maybe you are not pushing the right buttons for her.

Auntie Jane

 

 
 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My husband just left me for my neighbor. Her husband is as surprised as me. Now he keeps coming over and thinks we should hook up to show them we don't care. But I do care and am not interested in this man. Its been two weeks since they took off in our camper and I have not heard a word from either of them. Should I contact the police and file a missing persons report?  I am worried that something has gone wrong and they are in trouble somewhere. My family says let them be and not take him back if he comes home. 

Mavis

Dear  Mavis -  

   It would not hurt to notify the police, so it's on record. Has there been any action at the bank with withdrawals? They must have money to survive. I would withdraw all moneys and check your credit cards. Tell your neighbor to do the same, then at least you will hear from them when they run short of money. It is only you that can decide what to do when they surface. Make it clear to your jilted neighbor that you have no interest in starting a revenge relationship with him. Oh yes, and change your locks, campers get musty in the winter.

 

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  Why are guys such pigs. I just found out my boyfriend is sleeping with a close friend of mine. I dumped him, but he keeps calling and asks for another chance. 

Patty

Dear  Patty  - 

   Not all guys are pigs, did you find this one in a sty. Move on, there are many nice guys out there and you deserve better than the oinks he has to offer.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My wife is driving me crazy, she wants me by her side constantly. I retired a year ago and have not had a minute to myself in that time. She makes plans daily either with other friends or family. I have worked all my life and thought retirement would be more relaxed. I would be happy to have two days a week to be alone or with my old buddies, playing golf or just having a beer with them. How can I get her to understand? 

Mark

Dear  Mark -  

   Did you leave your balls at the job? You need to tell her not to make plans before she checks with you. Retirement is to be enjoyed by both of you, so make it clear that you intend to have your own time without her. She needs to get involved without you beside her everyday. Show her this answer.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   bed

 My husband has never satisfied me in bed. I am thinking of taking a lover after being married for five years with out sexual satisfaction. I have someone in mind who makes me tingle all over just talking to him. He is ten years younger than me, so it would be strictly for sex. Am I wrong in wanting this for myself? I love my husband and enjoy being married to him and would never leave him as I have a good life with security and enjoy holidays and his company, just not in bed. Should I take this man as my lover?

Want more in

Dear  WMIB  -  

   Sounds like a plan until you get caught then say goodbye to security and holidays. If you can cope with that go right ahead.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   We have a group of friends that take turns having everyone for dinner. One couple is very cheap and never go to the trouble of putting on a great meal. They buy the cheapest of wine and always serve  a frozen dinner of some kind with a bought desert that you know is at least a day old. We all pride ourselves with a gourmet meal and wine that is complementary to what we serve.  Always serving a homemade desert to finish off with a brandy or cognac. Should we drop them from our list of guests or tell them to get with our program?

Group of eight

Dear  GOE -  

   Are you the only one that thinks this way in your group? I look at my friends as great dinner companion with good conversation to break bread with and could care less at what they choose to serve me. You say that these friends are cheap, have you ever considered what they serve is what they can afford and maybe  they're not  the best cooks. You can go out for dinner anytime for a gourmet meal  and miss the friendship of good people, that are called friends. You could drop them from your menu but might find that something is missing. With your snobbish attitude I wouldn't be interested in your program.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am fourteen and my boyfriend and I have been going together for  three months and he leaves for college in a week. He gave me a promise ring and wants me to wait for him, he will come home for Christmas. Then I won't see him again till next  summer. Can this distant relation  work?

Molly

Dear  Molly -  

   Four years of college for him and maybe eight more for you to finish school and college. I would suggest to him that maybe you both should see others and see him at Christmas. If your meant to be together in the end it will happen, but you both should enjoy the teenage years. Doesn't mean that you cannot communicate with Skype and texting while apart.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  I have been going with my boyfriend for five years and want to get married this fall. I am thirty and want to start a family in the next couple of years. He keeps saying we have lots of time to settle down and likes things just the way they are. We have lived together for three years. How can I get him to commit to a wedding date?

Sandra

 

Dear  Sandra -  

   He doesn't seem to be committed to you, like you are to him.  I would tell him to move out and decide if you are the one for him. Better to find this out before you start making wedding plans. Why would he want marriage when he has everything now without it.  

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I am a twenty-six year old female, everyone I meet tells me how beautiful I am. I have a terrific figure and a fantastic personality with long blond hair. I have an agent for the movie industry and she never calls me. I have had only one audition in two years. Do you think I should fire her and go elsewhere?  How can someone like me not get a chance, when I see girls not half as beautiful as me get called all the time.

Cass

Dear   Cass - 

   Maybe they have talent. And you didn't have to tell me you where blond.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have had a roommate for five years, he just told me he is gay. Should I ask him to move or should I go?

Frank

Dear   Frank  - 

   Why would either of you move? Are you afraid he might jump your bones while sleeping. Grow up he was gay before you knew he was gay. Some people would call you homophobic.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My father is very strict and will not allow me to have any friends unless they are from his country. I was born here and my mother has to cover her face when she leaves the house. I tell my father we are in Canada now and should adopt the customs here. He will not answer our questions in English and refuses to allow  my sister and I to go to any functions unless our  brother comes with us. My mother is afraid to upset him and does everything he says. I will graduate next year and want to leave our home, but afraid for my sister who is two years younger than me.  I have no one to turn to for help.

Persia

Dear  Persia -  

   Go to your school counselor when you get back to school, tell her about your problems.  I am sure it is hard for your parents to make adjustment in their lifestyle because they were brought up so differently. Your father has to be made to understand that he has to give his children freedom or he will lose them as they grow older. Ask your brother to talk to him as a male and that you and your sister respect him but he also has to respect you two girls in return. If your mother is not happy to cover her face then she has to speak up and be heard in your household. I am sure your father came to this country to make a better life for all of you. Hopefully he will see his mistakes before it's too late.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   I went out with a guy who I have had a crush on since last year. He is three years older and will go to university in a month. I think I made a mistake by sleeping with him when we hooked up at a party. Now when I call he never comes to the phone. I saw him with another girl last night at a movie and he never even said hello to me. How can I get him to notice me and talk to me and give me a chance to be his girlfriend.  

Lilly

Dear  Lilly  -  

    I'm sure he noticed you and has moved on to someone else who may be a bit more hard to get. You should move on and think twice about sleeping with someone so soon.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 
Dear Auntie Jane -
   My boyfriend has body odor, he says he showers, but does not use deodorant. I can smell him as soon as he comes close. I have told him repeatedly, with no success. I love this guy but his smell turns me off. How can I make him understand.  

Purl

Dear Purl -  

   Buy him some deodorant and tell him if he doesn't use it, not to come near you. Stick to this and I'm sure he will start smelling better. If the deodorant doesn't work he should see a doctor about this.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My brother is four years older than me. He has always been jealous of my wife and is always coming on to her. She is shy and gets embarrassed by how he talks to her. I have told him this bothers her and he just laughs and says she will get used to it. Now she doesn't want to go to my parents house for dinner anymore because of him. How can I stop him from being so rude towards her?

Greg

Dear  Greg  - 

   Tell your parents unless your brother stop this rudeness, you and your wife will not be attending anymore family dinners. Hopefully they will tell your brother to keep his mouth shut unless he has something pleasant to say to your wife. Have your parents for dinner at your place instead without him until he finds some manners.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My mother is driving me crazy. Every time I go out she kisses me and says she loves me. Even when my friends are there. I get embarrassed and have told her not to do this. HELP.

 Teenager

Dear  Teenager - 

   You're so lucky to have a Mom like this. Be thankful that she does this, when you have your own kids I guarantee you will do the same thing. Nothing wrong in showing affection to love ones.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  I would appreciate if you would give me some sound advice. I am a widow and over eighty. I have three children from my first marriage and two from my late husband. Most of my money came from my late husband and some from my first. The first three children have five children and the other two have four. My dilemma is the three older ones never come around and neither do their children. The two youngest ones have me over for dinner, take me to my grandchildren's sports games . They take turns taking me shopping once a week and to doctor appointments and phone to check up on me daily. They also include me when they go away on holidays. I have a will that is divided equally among them all and now feel that I want to change it. I am of sound mind and now feel that the two youngest and their kids deserve to be rewarded for always being there for me. Am I wrong in this? 

Elsie M 

Dear  Elsie  -  

   No you are not wrong my dear, they are making your life more meaningful by showing love and spending time with you. Leave your other grandkids a memento of yourself or their grandfather. The other three I would acknowledge them as much as they do you. 

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My  friend and I  don't agree and would like you to decide who is right. I went out with this guy and we had sex on our first date. He has not called me since and I think I should phone him and ask him out. My friend thinks he just used me and is not interested or he would have called after two weeks. Do you think he will call?

 Leila

Dear    Leila - 

   Probably when he feels like an ice cream cone and a quick lay. 

Auntie Jane

 

 


 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have been married for six months. My husband insists that he has the right to go out with his friends three times a week and leaves me home. He gets so mad when I tell him that this is not right for a married man. What should I do? 

Unhappy

Dear  Unhappy  -  

  Sounds to me like he wants to be married and lead a single life. I certainly wouldn't get pregnant with this guy, or you will be raising the child alone. You could go out with you're friends and not be home when he gets there, see how he likes this. But certainly not a good way to start a marriage. He sounds very immature and not ready for the commitment of marriage. It takes two to make a marriage work, that is why the divorce rate is so high. Talk to him and tell him if he wants to be single, then  he should leave before you put any more of your time into this relationship.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   My brother is four years older than me. He has always been jealous of my wife and is always coming on to her. She is shy and gets embarrassed by how he talks to her. I have told him this bothers her and he just laughs and says she will get used to it. Now she doesn't want to go to my parents house for dinner anymore because of him. How can I stop him from being so rude towards her?

Greg

Dear  Greg  - 

   Tell your parents unless your brother stop this rudeness, you and your wife will not be attending anymore family dinners. Hopefully they will tell your brother to keep his mouth shut unless he has something pleasant to say to your wife. Have your parents for dinner at your place instead without him.

Auntie Jane

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
  I am getting married in a month. I am a virgin and am scared of my wedding night. My girlfriends say I should have sex before then, so I can enjoy myself on this important night. I wanted to give my future husband this gift of being a virgin. Do you think I should go with my girlfriends idea?

  Janice

Dear  Janice   -  

    Your future husband will take your virginity as a special time for you both. Tell him how you feel and I am sure he will make your special night perfect for you both. Just relax and take it slow and it will be fine.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
 I have loved the same guy for over five years. He has been engaged to this floozy for three. How can I get him to drop this girl so we can get together. I had a one night stand with him and we had a great time before he got engaged. I have bumped into him a couple of times and he is friendly towards me. Should I call him and tell him that I am the one for him?

 Had great sex

Dear  HGS  - 

  One question , who is the floozy?

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
 I am forty years old, look  much younger. There is a young man that keeps coming on to me at work and wants to take me out for dinner. He is nineteen, but mature for his age. One of the girls he has dated awhile back was telling us he is great in bed. He is good looking and I was wondering if you think he is too young?  

Willing

Dear  Willing - 

   Well, you wouldn't be charged with rape if you went for it. If you're just looking for a good roll in the hay why not.  Quite a bit of an age difference if you plan on keeping up this relationship. My concern would be what would you have in common except sex.  My question would be is he trying to date every available girl in the office and bed them? I just can't seem to put you in the same category as the widow of eighty-five.

Auntie Jane

 

 

 

Dear Auntie Jane -
   I have  been a widow for five years, I am a women of eighty-five. My husband and I had a good sex life and I miss this part of my life. I met a gentleman where I go to play cards. He has asked me out a few times and we enjoy each others company. My problem he is only sixty and wants to have a more intimate relationship with me. Do you think this would be appropriate for us to have sex?

Want to enjoy the time I have left

 

Dear   WTETTIHL  -  

   

YOU GO FOR IT GIRL!  

Auntie Jane

 

 
 
 

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