of life's meandering paths
What is Love?
Many times, I have been asked, what true love is. Some say when you find it you will know. Not necessarily, love takes time and patience to blossom.
When you meet someone, you must take the time to get to know that person inside out. Love grows in many form in ones life, you may be caught up in the excitement of a new relationship and miss the warning signs. Does this person just want friendship or someone to spend sometime with but never really wanting to commit to you fully
This can be a woman or man that likes the idea of the opposite sex in their lives, but never fully wanting to share the life that they have built for themselves, just liking the idea they maybe in a relationship and enjoy that person occasionally, without the commitment of a long-term bond.
True love comes in many ways in a relationship, someone being there for the other when that person needs support in what is going on in their lives. I am not talking about financial, but just letting that person know you are there unconditionally for them. Trust and honesty are one of the biggest hurdles couples go through.
Love is not a competition to see who gives up more to be in a relationship, but to find a happy medium that two people who believe they are in love work towards a common goal in their life together.
Sex is an important part of falling in love, compatibility with a partner knowing that this person wants to satisfy you sexual as well as intellectually is necessary in every relationship.
To share in a life together does not mean that one has to be tied to each other all the time and is let to pursue their own dreams and aspirations. To support each other in all that is important.
Sadly some will never reach the plateau of the higher love as they want to sit and watch others struggle to succeed in their life’s dream rather than take the plunge and work towards making a happy coupling.
Some men truly love to see an intelligent woman, other are frightened by her intellect. Those men will never find true love if they are unwilling to be challenged by the opposite sex. Others will find this kind of woman worth fighting for to have a true life filled with true love compassion and a highly sexual species to spend the rest of ones life together.
That to me is true love.
Follow our plan to walk the 'Way of St. James' across the top of Spain.
AJ - July 08/09
AJ - March 21/10
AJ - March 21/10
For those who have shown an interest in what we are doing.
We are adopting a back up plan at this time and going month to month. Spring and summer seem to be moving into autumn. But any time is okay to follow the Path of the Shell. (Uru anyone?)
As we get older it is not as easy to get organized and put the schemes in motion, People keep interfering. Doctors keep prescribing. Things keep happening. Junk keeps building up in our closets, especially when you live with a hoarder who finds a need to discuss every item to be sold three or four or five times. This is not good or productive. He went through 600 books and deleted three, of which two found their way back onto the shelves! Progress is painstakingly slow.
The general idea was to divest ourselves of a lot of ‘treasures’ that have turned out not to be treasures, but possibly encumbrances, if that is a word. The valuable items we saved over the years for our retirement, have turned out to be just junk. But we will make headway. Even if the plan is only vibrating at the speed of a snail’s thin shell.
We have two magazines interested in watching us wobble from lane to lane and to hear what happens to two old codgers, intrepid adventurers or not, on a journey of discovery. The title of a series might even be Not Quite Nomads. Walking 500 miles is a major undertaking – (ba-ad word!) - for a pair of limpers, pill takers and mewling bitchers about our pains, each trying to one-up the other! This will be a life changing experience and so far I am only at the stage of wondering how heavy a bottle of Glenfiddich becomes in one’s backpack! The trick of course, is to drink it to lighten the load.
So we are in a holding pattern until we can solve a few issues with ‘stuff’. What do we keep and store and what goes? Exactly what IS a treasure? And where do we get a sponsor? We want to get a decent hotel at least once a week for R&R and new bandages.
We are determined to embark on this adventure, and to walk our Camino in spite of pain and torture, it is the Faith. St. James would allow it no other way. And we are bristling at the concept proposed by some, that in one’s seventies, one should not take on such an arduous trek. It’ll be the death of you, has been suggested.
Well, we were supposed to retire years ago to our comfortable life of leisure and canasta and gin and tonics in the shade of the veranda.
We are hoping for Freedom 85. Meanwhile, we’ll continue the dreamscape of Spain and plan, however slowly, for the death of us.
Deal the cards.
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